Value Statement
by Anna Sipos
Purpose: to define a personal core value in the here and now, define where our basic values are coming from and which one is the most important right now. By doing what the person is going to create that value in the different logical levels.
Setting: 9 papers with the logical levels written on the floor, empty A4 papers, colorful pencils int he middle.
A.) Create a symbol of your core value
B.) Create change by using the core value
Setting: 9 papers with the logical levels written on the floor, empty A4 papers, colorful pencils int he middle.
A.) Create a symbol of your core value
- Rapport
- The client stands on the first paper (environment). Check and describe what is there. Where? When? What is around? Physical and human resources
- The client stands on the second paper (behavior). Check and describe what is there. What? What do you do? How do you react on different situations?
- The client stands on the third paper (capabilities). Check and describe what is there. Knowledge, experiences. How?
- The client stands on the 4th paper (beliefs, values). Check and describe what is there, take time for the client to figure out which value/belief supports him the most. How come? Why? What is the reason? What is the value you want to share with the world?
- The client stands on the 5th paper (identity, mission). Check and describe what is there. Looking back to the previous papers: how they form/effect his/her identity. Who? What? Create a sentence starting with „I create …..the value chosen…. by doing……”. Create a symbol, draw it on a paper at this level.
B.) Create change by using the core value
- Holding the paper with the symbol the client stands on the 6th paper (family). The question: how do you want to share your core value in your family? By doing what? How it is going to effect your family if you share that value? What beliefs support you to create the change in this level?
- Holding the paper with the symbol the client stands on the 7th paper (colleagues, friends). The question: how do you want to share your core value with your colleagues, friends? By doing what? What change are you going to create by sharing it? What beliefs support you to create the change in this level?
- Holding the paper with the symbol the client stands on the 8th paper (Society). The question: how do you want to share your core value with the society? By doing what? What change are you going to create? What beliefs support you to create the change in this level?
- Holding the paper with the symbol the client stands on the 9th paper (universe). The question: how do you want to share your core value with the universe? By doing what? What change are you going to create? What beliefs support you to create the change in this level?
Innovation Boost
by Barbara Földi
Aim
The aim of the process is to (re)discover your creative self and realize you have inside of you everything already to create whatever you wish. You can empower yourself by collecting your own resources from your life. And anchor them in order to use whenever you need.
Tools
Process
The process includes 3 steps/phases. The first step is a closed eye focused where the client takes part in a journey to their childhood. The second phase is when during the focus the client rediscover his/her own resources and creativity and we anchor it or he/she anchor it for her/himself. After this the client takes the journey back into the present. The third and last phase when the client express his/her resource in a symbol and make it visible with painting with his/her hand.
FOCUS: The trainer is building rapport with the client. In the closed eye focus the trainer is guiding the client through her/his childhood. The client is searching a memory from the childhood where they were happy. The aim is to search for a memory where the client was free, careless. The trainer guides the client through this experience - with the MILTON language and the support of the VAKOG system - and they focus on finding where they were free and ready to explore new things, when they created something out of nothing. They were proud and happy with their creation. The client makes a mental image (photo) of the object what they made and bring back this image with them into the present. Then they anchor the positive feeling what it came with it.
SYMBOL: After the closed eyed focus the client is takes this feeling / resource into a symbol.
CREATIVE PART: The client is painting his/her symbol and the memory what he/she had. It will stay as a memory and also makes the idea visual and the client experience creativity during the painting process.
ECO-CHECK: If you can recall this resource and use it in the future.
The aim of the process is to (re)discover your creative self and realize you have inside of you everything already to create whatever you wish. You can empower yourself by collecting your own resources from your life. And anchor them in order to use whenever you need.
Tools
- Paints (watercolor)
- Paper / White Fabric (big enough according to the nr. of participants)
- Music - light! only for background
Process
The process includes 3 steps/phases. The first step is a closed eye focused where the client takes part in a journey to their childhood. The second phase is when during the focus the client rediscover his/her own resources and creativity and we anchor it or he/she anchor it for her/himself. After this the client takes the journey back into the present. The third and last phase when the client express his/her resource in a symbol and make it visible with painting with his/her hand.
FOCUS: The trainer is building rapport with the client. In the closed eye focus the trainer is guiding the client through her/his childhood. The client is searching a memory from the childhood where they were happy. The aim is to search for a memory where the client was free, careless. The trainer guides the client through this experience - with the MILTON language and the support of the VAKOG system - and they focus on finding where they were free and ready to explore new things, when they created something out of nothing. They were proud and happy with their creation. The client makes a mental image (photo) of the object what they made and bring back this image with them into the present. Then they anchor the positive feeling what it came with it.
SYMBOL: After the closed eyed focus the client is takes this feeling / resource into a symbol.
CREATIVE PART: The client is painting his/her symbol and the memory what he/she had. It will stay as a memory and also makes the idea visual and the client experience creativity during the painting process.
ECO-CHECK: If you can recall this resource and use it in the future.
Confidence Awakener
by Jordan Jose Puchol Herreros
Issue to deal with: Limiting beliefs regarding self-worth, lack of self confidence.
Background: One of the most common issues that stop clients dealing with lack of self confidence or with the limiting belief of “helplessness” from accepting themselves is the lack of self-awareness, which results in the inability to recognise their own positive attributes.
The “Confidence Awakener” NLP technique gives the client the space and context for inner-exploration in order to recognise the positive attributes that are already within him/her by reflecting on his/her own past successes.
Steps:
0. Establish rapport with the client.
1. Ask client what belief he wants to change (e.g.: “I have no strengths”)
2. Ask client to recall a successful (according to the client) moment of his/her life where he/she felt proud of him/herself. Use VAKOG to guide the client’s visualization.
3. Ask client to name at least 3 positive attributes that he/she has that allowed him/her to achieve this success. Write them down in a piece of paper.
4. [Optional] If the client gets stuck and is not able to name 3 positive attributes, guide him/her into a meta-position, where he/she can recognize from a disassociated state the positive attributes that a person needs in order to achieve this success.
5. Repeat steps 1 and 2 until the client recalls 10 (the amount can be modified according to the client’s needs) successful moments of his/her life. At that point the client will have a list of at least 30 positive attributes that he/she has named for him/herself.
6. Ask client to close his/her eyes. Read out loud the list of the positive attributes that he/she named previously.
7. Ask client to name his/her new belief.
8. Ask client to name an empowering feeling that it brings to him/her and establish an anchor.
9. Eco-check and future path.
Background: One of the most common issues that stop clients dealing with lack of self confidence or with the limiting belief of “helplessness” from accepting themselves is the lack of self-awareness, which results in the inability to recognise their own positive attributes.
The “Confidence Awakener” NLP technique gives the client the space and context for inner-exploration in order to recognise the positive attributes that are already within him/her by reflecting on his/her own past successes.
Steps:
0. Establish rapport with the client.
1. Ask client what belief he wants to change (e.g.: “I have no strengths”)
2. Ask client to recall a successful (according to the client) moment of his/her life where he/she felt proud of him/herself. Use VAKOG to guide the client’s visualization.
3. Ask client to name at least 3 positive attributes that he/she has that allowed him/her to achieve this success. Write them down in a piece of paper.
4. [Optional] If the client gets stuck and is not able to name 3 positive attributes, guide him/her into a meta-position, where he/she can recognize from a disassociated state the positive attributes that a person needs in order to achieve this success.
5. Repeat steps 1 and 2 until the client recalls 10 (the amount can be modified according to the client’s needs) successful moments of his/her life. At that point the client will have a list of at least 30 positive attributes that he/she has named for him/herself.
6. Ask client to close his/her eyes. Read out loud the list of the positive attributes that he/she named previously.
7. Ask client to name his/her new belief.
8. Ask client to name an empowering feeling that it brings to him/her and establish an anchor.
9. Eco-check and future path.
Peter Pan Technique
by Lenka Maruniakova
Symptom: workaholic, inability to dream and follow true desires, disconnection from childlike joy, playfulness
Aims of this technique:
Based on the book Peter and Wendy by J. M. Barrie and a “follow-up” movie The Hook, where Peter Pan is actually a grown-up man.
Short story background:
Peter Pan is a free spirited and mischievous young boy who can fly and never grows up, he spends his never-ending childhood having adventures on the mystical island of Neverland as the leader of the Lost Boys, interacting with fairies, pirates, mermaids, Native Americans, and occasionally ordinary children from the world outside Neverland. Peter has an ability to imagine things into existence. Wendy is hinted to have romantic feelings for Peter, but cannot be with him because of his inability to love back.
In Hook, Peter states that the reason he wanted to grow up was to be a father. He met and fell in love with Wendy's granddaughter, Moira, which causes him to forsake his immortality and marry her. They have two children in the movie, Jack and Maggie. He is a successful corporate lawyer living in San Francisco. As a workaholic, he spends little time with his wife, Moira, and children, 12-year-old Jack and 7-year-old Maggie. Jack and Maggie are kidnapped one night by Captain Hook, who is Peter Pan's archenemy, whose right (or left) hand was cut off in a duel. Adult Peter has lost all of his childhood memories when he fell in love with Moira. To rescue his children from Hook, the new generation of Lost Boys helps him train for a battle with Hook, in the process he regains his imagination and lost youth. Tinker Bell (a common fairy who is Peter Pan's best friend and protects him) helps him remember his childhood and how he fell in love with Moira, and he realizes his happy thought is being a father due to which regains his ability to fly. The child-minded Peter and the Lost Boys attack the pirates as promised, leading to a lengthy battle. He rescues Maggie and promises to be a better father to Jack. Peter and Hook duel, leading to Peter's victory.
Steps:
Aims of this technique:
- To remind ourselves about our inner ability to dream and play that we might have lost while becoming an adult person and being busy with our work
- To reconnect to our dreaming part which gives us drive in our life and brings us joy
- To bring qualities such as playfulness and lightness, young spirit, childlike joy to the current state where the person lacks these qualities
Based on the book Peter and Wendy by J. M. Barrie and a “follow-up” movie The Hook, where Peter Pan is actually a grown-up man.
Short story background:
Peter Pan is a free spirited and mischievous young boy who can fly and never grows up, he spends his never-ending childhood having adventures on the mystical island of Neverland as the leader of the Lost Boys, interacting with fairies, pirates, mermaids, Native Americans, and occasionally ordinary children from the world outside Neverland. Peter has an ability to imagine things into existence. Wendy is hinted to have romantic feelings for Peter, but cannot be with him because of his inability to love back.
In Hook, Peter states that the reason he wanted to grow up was to be a father. He met and fell in love with Wendy's granddaughter, Moira, which causes him to forsake his immortality and marry her. They have two children in the movie, Jack and Maggie. He is a successful corporate lawyer living in San Francisco. As a workaholic, he spends little time with his wife, Moira, and children, 12-year-old Jack and 7-year-old Maggie. Jack and Maggie are kidnapped one night by Captain Hook, who is Peter Pan's archenemy, whose right (or left) hand was cut off in a duel. Adult Peter has lost all of his childhood memories when he fell in love with Moira. To rescue his children from Hook, the new generation of Lost Boys helps him train for a battle with Hook, in the process he regains his imagination and lost youth. Tinker Bell (a common fairy who is Peter Pan's best friend and protects him) helps him remember his childhood and how he fell in love with Moira, and he realizes his happy thought is being a father due to which regains his ability to fly. The child-minded Peter and the Lost Boys attack the pirates as promised, leading to a lengthy battle. He rescues Maggie and promises to be a better father to Jack. Peter and Hook duel, leading to Peter's victory.
Steps:
- Create a rapport with the person
- Tell the story in short to tackle the unconscious parts. While telling the story, explain to the person that when we become adults, we sometimes lose connection to this part in us, that is a source of playfulness, lightness, joy and ability to dream without restrictions. This part also provides us with energy and drive to do things in life we truly want.
- Connection to the part of us which is responsible for the ability to dream and play:
- “You might be wondering how it feels to have this ability to dream and play available when you are overloaded with work.”
- Ask the person: “Recall a memory where you were playful, when you were full of dreams, and where there was something you were dreaming about and you got it.”
- Enhance the supporting beliefs by using Milton language: “And it brings you also the feeling that everything in your life is possible and you have all the resources within you and around you to make your dreams happen.”
In case of troubles with finding own memory from his/her childhood, we use the technique “New Behavior Generator”, where we can use either the model of Peter Pan or someone the person knows who likes to dream and play and does it. Steps:- Find a model.
- Ask the person to describe in detail all the qualities he/she sees in the model and would like to possess.
- Check if the described desired behavior is acceptable for the person to adopt (Association).
- Integration of the qualities the person described.
- Eco-check.
- Find a model.
- VAKOG. Play with movements – what kind of movements are you doing while being in this state. Anchor this positive state in body. Possibility to create a specific movement to recall this part in the future.
- “You might be wondering how it feels to have this ability to dream and play available when you are overloaded with work.”
- Message / Gift from the part responsible for ability to dream and play
- “As you are in connection with your part that is playful, that dreams, what is the message this part sends to the other parts of you?” / “What gift does this part sends to you?”
- “Would you like to receive it?” YES -> Transforming into a package and sending it. Receiving it. “From now on it is yours, nobody can take it away from you, you can recall this state whenever you need.”
- “As you are in connection with your part that is playful, that dreams, what is the message this part sends to the other parts of you?” / “What gift does this part sends to you?”
- Future Pace
Happy Cocktail
by Dóra Preszeller
Objectives:
Tools needed:
We explain to client that we are going to recall a positive, powerful moment in his/her life when she/he felt at best self and we are going to celebrate it with a “cocktail”. We are going to have 5 stages to go through.
1. Lead person into trance by recalling a situation when the person felt it best self. VAKOG
‘Start walking around randomly, thinking about him/herself, about her inner power, strength, and passions and after a short time, find a place to stop. Let’s stand in this position and just as in a cocktail party tell to the coach recall the last time you were really at your best self, being happy, doing something to the fully, experiencing inner power, strength and passion, remember what was so wonderful about it and pay attention to all the details.’
2. Step: Environment (Anchor with “cocktail”= having a sip of water)
3. Step: Behavior
4. Step: Capabilities
5. Step: Beliefs, Values
6. Step: Identity
7. Look back to the “logical levels” line and summarize. Anchor.
8. Walk back each step, repeat content and ask client: can you double the feeling? “Double, Triple the good feeling ” with leading meditation –Remind client as best self is always there. With this connection, she/he is guided to make the right choices in life and live life fully.
9. Ask client to repeat: I can, I will, because I deserve it! Congratulate, cheers and finish cocktail
10. Echo Check / How do you feel now?
- Discover the person’s best self-potential through the stages of logical levels
- Build self-esteem, confidence and awareness on the potential of being great
- Create a method to cause positive feeling in the client without tackling or departing from a problem
- Create a long lasting anchoring by drinking a glass of water (=anchoring)
Tools needed:
- Prepare stages of logical levels on paper (environment, behavior, capabilities, beliefs and identity)
- Glass of water (with extra water if necessary)
We explain to client that we are going to recall a positive, powerful moment in his/her life when she/he felt at best self and we are going to celebrate it with a “cocktail”. We are going to have 5 stages to go through.
1. Lead person into trance by recalling a situation when the person felt it best self. VAKOG
‘Start walking around randomly, thinking about him/herself, about her inner power, strength, and passions and after a short time, find a place to stop. Let’s stand in this position and just as in a cocktail party tell to the coach recall the last time you were really at your best self, being happy, doing something to the fully, experiencing inner power, strength and passion, remember what was so wonderful about it and pay attention to all the details.’
2. Step: Environment (Anchor with “cocktail”= having a sip of water)
- Where do you see yourself? What do you see? How is the environment? How do you see yourself in that situation? How do others see you in that situation?
- What do you hear, smell, taste around you? How do you feel in this situation?
- Coach: Repeat main points, congratulate for best self and anchor. Move to next step.
3. Step: Behavior
- What are your actions there, how do you behave? How do you react in that environment which brings out your best self?
- Congratulate and anchor.
4. Step: Capabilities
- What capabilities, skills help you to be at your best self reacting the best way possible in that environment? Where do you get your energy from? What are your personal strengths?
- Congratulate and anchor. Move to next step.
5. Step: Beliefs, Values
- What beliefs do serve you in that situation? What others believe about you? How come? What is your motivation? What motivates you? What are the core values which lead you there?
- Congratulate and anchor. Move to next step.
6. Step: Identity
- Who you are there? What is your role in this situation? How do you feel about it? How would you call that state of feeling/ emotion?
- Congratulate and anchor.
7. Look back to the “logical levels” line and summarize. Anchor.
8. Walk back each step, repeat content and ask client: can you double the feeling? “Double, Triple the good feeling ” with leading meditation –Remind client as best self is always there. With this connection, she/he is guided to make the right choices in life and live life fully.
9. Ask client to repeat: I can, I will, because I deserve it! Congratulate, cheers and finish cocktail
10. Echo Check / How do you feel now?
Best Yourself
by Szévja Szloboda
This technique is aiming youth and everyone, who is lost in what they want to do in their lives. In the technique you have the chance to create a profile for yourself, collect strengthens and resources for your future.
1. Create RAPPORT with the client. Imagine a blank profile and step by step build it to be you. 2. First, let’s fill the profile with the inner features. What inner strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: emotions, values and beliefs, social abilities, problem solving skills, any other kinds of skills)
3. Now, let’s put the external features. What strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: gender, look, physique, body composition) 4
4. Now, let’s fill the profile with the inner features. What inner strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: emotions, values and beliefs, social abilities, problem solving skills, any other kinds of skills)
5. Let’s name the interest of your profile. What he/ she likes doing? What interests of yours can you put on your profile? (e.g.: hobby, free-time activity, like doing alone or with others)
6. Now, let’s associate yourself with your profile. It is your strengthens and source of resources. Knowing and feeling all these strengthens and values you have inside how do you feel yourself? (VAKOG)
7. If you feel comfortable in this suite of profile you created, let’s project this into the future and see what opportunities you have. What do you do/ see/feel? (VAKOG)
8. Eco-check
9. Anchored future pace at the 6th step.
After this technique we can go forward. If in the final situation we are able to form a clear goal or objective, then we can continue with Well-Formed Objective or with the Walt Disney technique to form how we can actually reach our goal. If the final state is not a clear goal or objective, we can still do a Setting Goal technique with all the strengthens and resources we collected before.
1. Create RAPPORT with the client. Imagine a blank profile and step by step build it to be you. 2. First, let’s fill the profile with the inner features. What inner strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: emotions, values and beliefs, social abilities, problem solving skills, any other kinds of skills)
3. Now, let’s put the external features. What strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: gender, look, physique, body composition) 4
4. Now, let’s fill the profile with the inner features. What inner strengthens you have that you can put on your profile? (e.g.: emotions, values and beliefs, social abilities, problem solving skills, any other kinds of skills)
5. Let’s name the interest of your profile. What he/ she likes doing? What interests of yours can you put on your profile? (e.g.: hobby, free-time activity, like doing alone or with others)
6. Now, let’s associate yourself with your profile. It is your strengthens and source of resources. Knowing and feeling all these strengthens and values you have inside how do you feel yourself? (VAKOG)
7. If you feel comfortable in this suite of profile you created, let’s project this into the future and see what opportunities you have. What do you do/ see/feel? (VAKOG)
8. Eco-check
9. Anchored future pace at the 6th step.
After this technique we can go forward. If in the final situation we are able to form a clear goal or objective, then we can continue with Well-Formed Objective or with the Walt Disney technique to form how we can actually reach our goal. If the final state is not a clear goal or objective, we can still do a Setting Goal technique with all the strengthens and resources we collected before.
Self-Healing - the Unicorn Meditation
by Diana Luca
Objective: Discovering the inner power. Re-discovering your potential and self-confidence. Problem solving. Decision making.
Targeting: managers, team leaders, businessmen, entrepreneurs, advertising segment. Remove all types of stuck / blocking issues. Remove stress and feeling of hopelessness.
Overview/ procedure:
1. Identify the problem, the situation where you have difficulties, where you feel stuck.
2. Ask client to visualize the problem and to pay attention where changes in his body appear while thinking and visualizing the problem.
3. Ask client to put the problem in a bubble and then to put the bubble on the part of the body he associates the problem with.
4. Ask the client to create a fist and squeeze as hard as he can on the part of that body until practitioner says it is OK to release it.
5. Ask the client to close his eyes and take a deep breath.
6. Ask the client to bring his awareness on his breath and to observe the changes in his body while he is breathing.
7. Ask the client to empty his mind of any thoughts and to bring his attention and awareness on his breath and his body.
8. It is important to observe the clients’ breath, so make sure to remind him constantly to breath deeply and empty his mind.
9. Once you make sure the client is focusing on his breath, ask the client to notice the problem, to bring his awareness on that part of the body where the fist is and to pay attention to how hard he squeezes his fist where the problem is.
10. As the client continues to be focus on his fist where the problem is, ask him to visualize this Unicorn who is coming his way. Tell the client that this Unicorn is coming from his inner strength. It is the Unicorn that was already there inside him.
11. Describe the Unicorn to the client: beautiful, strong, white, light, shiny, calm, powerful; also describe and highlight the feelings that the client feels as he sees this Unicorn: feeling safety, security, power, light.
12. Remind the client to breath, to observe the fist hardly squeezed on that part of his body and remind the client that his Unicorn is now with him, watching him, loving him, protecting him, inspiring him. Remind the client how does the Unicorn looks like and how does he feels around him.
13. Ask the client to give the bubble to the Unicorn and slowly release the fist from that part of the body and relax as he gives the problem to the Unicorn.
14. Remind the client to breath and bring his awareness to that part of the body which is now no longer hardly squeezed and is relaxed; reminder the client that the Unicorn now has his problem and that he is no longer holding any problem and that he is now watching the Unicorn holding this problem.
15. Repeat to the client that the Unicorn has his problem now and ask him to watch the Unicorn how he disappears with the problem; taking his problem away/ making the problem gone.
16. Remind the client constantly to breath and relax and realize that he has no problem anymore. Ask the client to remember he gave the problem to the Unicorn and that the Unicorn has vanished, leaving him with no problem.
17. Ask the client to remember how the Unicorn looked like, describe it again and also remind the client how he felt around the Unicorn: feeling safety, strong, light, magic; and then ask the client, in his own time, when he is ready, it is OK to open his eyes.
Targeting: managers, team leaders, businessmen, entrepreneurs, advertising segment. Remove all types of stuck / blocking issues. Remove stress and feeling of hopelessness.
Overview/ procedure:
1. Identify the problem, the situation where you have difficulties, where you feel stuck.
2. Ask client to visualize the problem and to pay attention where changes in his body appear while thinking and visualizing the problem.
3. Ask client to put the problem in a bubble and then to put the bubble on the part of the body he associates the problem with.
4. Ask the client to create a fist and squeeze as hard as he can on the part of that body until practitioner says it is OK to release it.
5. Ask the client to close his eyes and take a deep breath.
6. Ask the client to bring his awareness on his breath and to observe the changes in his body while he is breathing.
7. Ask the client to empty his mind of any thoughts and to bring his attention and awareness on his breath and his body.
8. It is important to observe the clients’ breath, so make sure to remind him constantly to breath deeply and empty his mind.
9. Once you make sure the client is focusing on his breath, ask the client to notice the problem, to bring his awareness on that part of the body where the fist is and to pay attention to how hard he squeezes his fist where the problem is.
10. As the client continues to be focus on his fist where the problem is, ask him to visualize this Unicorn who is coming his way. Tell the client that this Unicorn is coming from his inner strength. It is the Unicorn that was already there inside him.
11. Describe the Unicorn to the client: beautiful, strong, white, light, shiny, calm, powerful; also describe and highlight the feelings that the client feels as he sees this Unicorn: feeling safety, security, power, light.
12. Remind the client to breath, to observe the fist hardly squeezed on that part of his body and remind the client that his Unicorn is now with him, watching him, loving him, protecting him, inspiring him. Remind the client how does the Unicorn looks like and how does he feels around him.
13. Ask the client to give the bubble to the Unicorn and slowly release the fist from that part of the body and relax as he gives the problem to the Unicorn.
14. Remind the client to breath and bring his awareness to that part of the body which is now no longer hardly squeezed and is relaxed; reminder the client that the Unicorn now has his problem and that he is no longer holding any problem and that he is now watching the Unicorn holding this problem.
15. Repeat to the client that the Unicorn has his problem now and ask him to watch the Unicorn how he disappears with the problem; taking his problem away/ making the problem gone.
16. Remind the client constantly to breath and relax and realize that he has no problem anymore. Ask the client to remember he gave the problem to the Unicorn and that the Unicorn has vanished, leaving him with no problem.
17. Ask the client to remember how the Unicorn looked like, describe it again and also remind the client how he felt around the Unicorn: feeling safety, strong, light, magic; and then ask the client, in his own time, when he is ready, it is OK to open his eyes.
The Young Sailor
by Fabiano Bruno
Objective: To support children to identify negative beliefs, negative feelings and to understand how they are holding them back in their daily life, how they can support, to take the good and to let them go in order to improve the quality of their life.
Target: young clientren from 8 till 12 years old (indicatively, also for old children)
Material: 1 meter basin, a 2 liters bottle of water, 3 A4 papers, cored post-its, small flat stones, colored markers
Procedure:
A (association)
C
Boils down in the following steps:
0. Rapport (in phase A)
1. Game (prepared in part B)
2. Goal (To support children to identify negative beliefs, negative feelings and to understand how they are holding them back in their daily life, how they can support, to take the good and to let them go in order to improve the quality of their life.)
3. Tools (dissociation, association, anchoring, piling anchor, future pace)
4. Eco-check
Target: young clientren from 8 till 12 years old (indicatively, also for old children)
Material: 1 meter basin, a 2 liters bottle of water, 3 A4 papers, cored post-its, small flat stones, colored markers
Procedure:
A (association)
- Ask the child to describe his/her relationships (family, friends and other children, teachers and other adults etc..) (VAKOG).
- Ask specific feelings and thoughts towards people and situations.
- Put the basin on the table, give the bottle to the young client and tell the child to fill the basin with water. Ask if the can imagine what is that for.
- Ask the young client to make a boat out of a A4 paper, tell that the boat represent the child.
- Tell the child to put the boat in the water.
- Give the young client the post-its and the stones, ask her/him to write on them the feelings and believes that are related with those relationships, choose a post-it if it’s positive and a stone if it’s negative. Write at least 10 elements.
- Tell the child to put all the elements inside the boat, to blow on it in order to push it from one side of the basin to the opposite one and to comment how the boat is moving
- In case the boat sank give to the young client another paper and tell him/her to make another boat, also the second one represent the child.
- Tell the young client to make a second try: to put inside the boat only the elements that will support the boat to travel easily from one side to the other of the basin and try again.
- Ask the child to comment the second boat trip and to describe what changed.
- Ask the client what to do with the remaining objects (stones hopefully), suggest to take every stones one by one, read the word and ask when that could support in some situation. When and how? Ask concrete examples. Ask the child if the message that the stone wanted to bring him is clear, if yes tell him to thank the stone for its support and to leave it fell gently in the water: as she/he got the message now he/she doesn’t need them anymore.
C
- Ask the child to move back, to focus on himself/herself and to explain what are the connection of the game played with his life and his relationships.
- Ask the child “what would happen if you would do in the real life what you did with the stones in this game?” (future pace)
- If the answer express that it would bring a positive change ask the child how he/she could make it.
- Tell the client to take the boat, to dry it and to press gently the boat to the part of the body where she/he feels that the positive feelings, thoughts, believes and good advice are originating and to add in all resources gained by that: enjoy and be happy → self motivation (anchoring/piling anchors).
- Tell the young client to take the paper boat with him/her, to put in her/his room in a visible place and to think about this game when the “stones” are coming again to give him/her advice.
Boils down in the following steps:
0. Rapport (in phase A)
1. Game (prepared in part B)
2. Goal (To support children to identify negative beliefs, negative feelings and to understand how they are holding them back in their daily life, how they can support, to take the good and to let them go in order to improve the quality of their life.)
3. Tools (dissociation, association, anchoring, piling anchor, future pace)
4. Eco-check